Thursday, August 28, 2008

10 Easy dating rules for your success

1) Leave the mobile phone off! Do not answer it if it is on Silent either. You should only do this if you are expecting an emergency and I mean an emergency. You only look like a deadhead, self-centered fool answering a phone at a meeting that is important and that goes for all meetings. It's inconsiderate and breeds contempt from the other party even if they agree to you answering it. They're only being polite which you're not, if you do have a ringing phone and answer it. This does not mean leave it at home - you may need it later.

2) Don't smoke anything in the presence of others unless they also smoke and for goodness sake make sure that no one near you is eating. Never smoke in an area where people are eating even if they smoke. You would be a fool to smoke in the presence of your date when they didn't smoke. If you're keen, it may be time to think about not smoking in their presence again.

3) A good rule is not to talk about your achievements unless you are asked. Bragging is more often frowned upon and puts people off early. Show some interest in your date and their hobbies achievements and interests. If you do this regularly enough, it will become a habit and your good social skills will become very obvious to others including your date.

4) Find some way to compliment them. This is good practise even if you don't think this person is right for you. What goes around comes around! This is also a great building block for social skills improvement.

5) Smart casual attire is always good for the first date. Girls - don't go over the top with jewelery. It looks crass and sometimes cheap! Subtlety is the name of the game here. Boys - don't swear or cuss. It only indicates ignorance and sometimes stupidity. It does not make you look tough. Your actions and the way you deal with life will show how tough you are quickly enough. Most people can find an adjective somewhere in their vocabulary to describe things. You'll find that you can too.

6) Most girls like to be respected and despite their eye lashes fluttering away in some scenarios, they are generally quite bright and one step ahead of you. The more you treat them like your equal in conversation, the more quickly you will identify a good match for you or not.

7) Most boys like to have interest shown in their achievements or interests. In fact, you could just focus on this for the whole date and be safe if you wanted to.


8) Eat like a human being - don't quaff down the food like it's your last meal. Don’t fill up. This will ensure that you can feel good about doing something after you've dined i.e. a walk, going to a different venue for coffee or dessert. Mixing you're venues often displays varying behavior. If your date begins to swing from a chandelier after one drink you may want to consider the future carefully

9) Boys - if you enjoyed your date, say so at the end of the evening. Follow up with a thoughtful gift such as flowers to her place of work or her doorstep. It does NOT have to be expensive. The surprise is what counts here along with the fact that you have obviously thought about her since the date. Hand write the card and leave a phone number she can catch you on.

10) Girls - try not to make yourself too available at the end of your first date. But make your feelings clear with an element of subtlety. Whatever you do not ask him if he will call again. Your mind set must be one of value and that if doesn't call then there will be another who will.

One more thing - on your first few dates never and I mean never get in a discussion of old boy friends or girlfriends, ex wives or husbands, nor anything to do with these issues - Never!

Source: www.hopelessromantic.com

Sunday, August 24, 2008

How does it work?

It’s our What? Who? Why? Where? and How?
Let’s begin…

What?
Speed dating is a dating system whose purpose is to encourage people to meet a large number of new people. Our version of speed dating involves a group of Muslim singles, that meet and date each other for 5 minutes, after which you can decide whether or not you would like to see them again, and you only get put in contact with the people that you want to meet who also want to meet you again – no more awkward phone calls and no having to avoid people you don’t like.

Who?
Single Muslim professionals.

Why?
Why should you go for speed dating? And why do we organize speed dating for Muslims? It’s okay, we’ll answer both questions! =)
# 1
This is a perfect event where you get the chance to get to know 10 people from the opposite gender and network with 9 other people from the same gender. The value of 10 dates for the price of 1? That’s a bargain!
# 2
Well, we KNOW there are a number of speed-dating events out there. But it is very non-Muslim skewed. Please don’t get us wrong, we respect our non-Muslim friends, but we want to provide the chance for those that want and feel more comfortable to meet Muslim men and women in a safe and observed environment.

Where?
Location will mostly be at restaurants which serve Halal food and non-alcoholic beverages. We will rotate the location for every event to keep the environment different and full of surprises!

How?
  1. You will each have 10 face-to-face 5-minute dates and you will be given a ‘match card’ at the beginning of the event. After every 5 minutes, our facilitator will ring a bell to indicate your date is over. The ladies will remain seated while and the men will move to the next seat and spend the next 5 minutes with a new ‘date’.
  2. No personal information (eg. Phone numbers or email) is to be exchanged between the participants at this time. If you like what you see, simply mark a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ next to each person’s name in the match card.
  3. At the end of the event, our facilitators will collect the match cards and you get a chance to mingle around.
  4. If you marked a ‘yes’ for someone, and he/she marked a ‘yes’ for you, then you have a match! We will send you matched results within 24 hours via email. Isn’t it simple, easy, safe and full of fun?
  5. In the event that there is a shortage of people, we would cancel the event in advance and place you in the next session. This way, you are guaranteed to meet the required number of people and better chances of getting your match.

22nd August 2008: Our First Event!




















Alhamdulillah. Our first Date Escalade Speed Dating event was a success! We know some of you were disappointed because you couldn't make it that day, so here's a recap of the event, which most of us will definitely remember. We brought together 16 couples, equivalent to 32 people. Despite the heavy rain and bad, bad jam, participants started flowing in at 8 p.m., registered, ate and mingled for a bit. After that was the speed date session. We could see the anxiety and excitement in their faces! This is, after all, everyone's first time. We managed to arrange the flow of the speed date so that everybody is comfortable and at ease throughout the session.



The laughter that could be heard throughout the session was a positive indication that everyone was enjoying themselves. We wrapped up at about 11.30 p.m. !
It was definitely fun. Expect more exciting events from us! Register with us if you would like take part!